* connect: validate upstreams and prevent duplicates
* Actually run Upstream.Validate() instead of ignoring it as dead code.
* Prevent two upstreams from declaring the same bind address and port.
It wouldn't work anyway.
* Prevent two upstreams from being declared that use the same
type+name+namespace+datacenter. Due to how the Upstream.Identity()
function worked this ended up mostly being enforced in xDS at use-time,
but it should be enforced more clearly at register-time.
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