this resolves some peer counting issues that were happening because the
lifetime future in PeerInfo was unreliable (multiple PeerInfo instances
existed per peer)
In addition, this solves another race condition: when connecting to a
peer and later dialling that protocol, it is not certain that the same
connection will be used if there's a concurrent incoming peer connection
ongoing - better not make too many assumptions about who sent statuses
when.
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