Changes the sourcing of the envoy bootstrap configuration
to not use agent APIs and instead use the catalog(server) API.
This is done by passing a node-name flag to the command,
(which can only be used with proxy-id).
Also fixes a bug where the golden envoy bootstrap config files
used for tests did not use the expected destination service name
in certain places for connect proxy kind.
The DebugConfig in the self endpoint can change at any time. It's not a stable API.
With the previous change to rename GRPCPort to XDSPort this command would have broken.
This commit adds the XDSPort to a stable part of the XDS api, and changes the envoy command to read
this new field.
It includes support for the old API as well, in case a newer CLI is used with an older API, and
adds a test for both cases.